My child is talkative – Tips to deal with your young ones


Is your child a real chatterbox? The pure joy of life, hidden anguish. It is better to identify where this need to express oneself comes from, to channel it.

A constant chatter

Your child has always loved to talk, even as a toddler. But since he was four years old, this trait has become more pronounced, and he has something to say or ask for all the time. On the way home, he reviews his school day, talks about the cars, the neighbor’s dog, his friends’ shoes, his bike, the cat on the wall, grumbles at his sister who undoes his puzzle. At home and school, it never stops! So much so that, tired of so much chatter, you end up no longer listening to her, and her sister can hardly express herself.

This child certainly needs to share what happens to him during the day, and it is important to listen to him. But it is also essential to point out that he or she should not monopolize the attention of his or her parents. It is a question of teaching your child the rules of communication and social life: respect everyone’s speaking time.

Understand his needs

To understand the reasons for this, you have to be careful about what the child says and how he or she does it. A chat can mask a concern. When he talks, is he nervous? Uncomfortable?

What tone does he use?

What emotions accompany his speeches?

These indicators are essential to see if it is a strong desire to express oneself, a joy of life, or a potential concern. And if we perceive a matter through his words, we try to understand what makes him anxious and reassure him.

A desire for attention?

Chat can also be due to a desire for attention. Behavior that disturbs others can become a strategy for drawing attention to oneself. Even when the child is scolded, he has managed to interest the adult in him. We then try to give him more time alone. Whatever the reason for the chatter, it can be harmful to the child. He is less concentrated in class; his classmates may put him aside; the teacher may punish him. Hence the need to help him channel his speeches by setting reassuring limits. He will then know when he is allowed to speak and how to participate in a conversation.

Channeling his flow of words

It is up to us to teach him to express himself without interrupting others, to listen. To do this, we can offer him board games that encourage him to take everyone into account and wait his turn. A sports activity or improvisational theatre will also help him to exercise and express himself. However, be careful not to over-stimulate it. Boredom can be beneficial because the child will find himself calm in front of himself. He will be less excited, which can influence this constant desire to speak out.

Finally, we set up a free moment where the child can talk to us, and we will be available to listen to him. The discussion will then be free of any tension.